Saturday, April 27, 2013


5 Lessons That Must be Learned in Relationships

Everyone can use some of this advice -- MEN and Women!!
Wow, I'm becoming the relationship advice expert lately!

1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
2. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
3. If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a man's character, leave him alone.
4. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
5. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.
6. Don't force an attraction.
7. Slower is better.
8. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
9. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
10. Have faith in God regarding your relationship, but don't let faith make you stupid. God does things decent and in order.
11. Don't settle.
12. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
13. If he keeps changing his mind about the relationship--take that as a BIG sign that he is unstable. Do you really want to be with a man like that?
14. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
15. Honorable men take care of their business and aren't involved in a whole lot of mess.
16. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
17. There's only one 'reason' a man dumps you; he doesn't want you.
18. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
19. You really do have to kiss a few frogs before finding the prince.
20. Always put yourself and your happiness first.
21. Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
22. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
23. Like from the show Sex and the City, if he doesn't call, he just isn't that interested.
24. Be honest and upfront. 25. Know when to cut the cord, don't be strung along.
26. Don't fall for the "I'm confused role". Remove yourself from the situation to let him figure things out (but don't wait for him, move on).
27. If you want to have a clue as to how he will treat you, watch how he treats the WOMEN in his family (not just mom).
28. There's more than physical abuse, there's emotional and mental abuse. If he causes any of them...flee.
29. You cannot change a man's behaviors. Change comes from within.
30. Don't let him place rules on you that he is not willing to follow himself -- double-standard. 31. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job.
32. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
33. Demand respect and if he can't give it, he can't have you!
34. Don't compete with other woman, but be aware that men are attracted to what they see.
35. If you think he is cheating, he probably is. Confront him right away and if you feel he's lying, let him go.
36. Actions speak louder than words.
37. Never let a man define who you are.
38. Never rely on a man for compliments, look to yourself for that.
39. Never borrow someone else's man.
40. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
41. Just because he says he loves you, doesn't mean that he won't hurt you and it doesn't mean that you are meant to be with him.
42. To use painful hard-won wisdom -- 'get it right' the next time.
43. Know that you deserve to be the number one person in the life of the #1 person in your life. 44. Love is a verb...
45. Learn to give up your lifelong task of trying to make someone unavailable-available, someone ungiving-giving, and someone unloving-loving.
46. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
47. All men are NOT dogs.
48. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two way street.
49. If you don't love can't love anyone else.
50. You cannot mend someone else's broken heart.
51. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
52. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
53. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
54. NEVER give more in a relationship than you are getting out of it.
55. Never become your man's "therapist".
56. When actions and words conflict, believe the actions. Respond to the actions.
57. A real healthy relationship requires two people. One person can end it but it takes two to make it work.
58. Don't fall for the "I'm not the loving type"...when a man loves you there is nothing in this world (within reason) that he wouldn't do for you.
59. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him he takes it for granted.
60. Give him his space...let him go out with his boys, don't pressure him to spend time with you, You can't force a man to hang out with you.
61. If you wouldn't allow your daughter to be with him you shouldn't.
62. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
63. Never move into his mother's house.
64. Provide financially for yourself and don't depend on anyone.
65. Never co-sign for a man.
66. Never believe you have the perfect guy and he is so innocent.
67. Never spoil your man; let him spoil you.
68. Never let a man mess up your credit.
69. When it's time to let go; let go.
70. Good men should be treated like good men.
71. Don't play games.
72. You can't make a whore into a housewife - or husband. (ha ha that's hilarious!)
73. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
74. Compatibility in terms of educational attainment, values, beliefs, personal and career goals, and socioeconomic status, are important.
75. Never date a guy who wears colored contacts.
BONUS - A man who doesn't love his mother can never really truly love a woman!!!! 

Off To Tokyo

So, same month like last year, a life-changing event will take place. I am moving away.

I prayed and prayed to every church and temple that I'd be relocated to Tokyo and it is now happening. What's more amazing is that I wouldn't have to move to a new job since my company is giving me this opportunity.

You know that very feeling when you completely get lost in translation for all the fast-moving things going on? I guess I am at that point. SURREAL. Who would have thought that my prayers will be granted? I honestly think that God is giving me way too much. In fact, to deserve all the blessings lately... I am still in awe. I must have done something right. I must have been good. But still, this is too much. Way more than I have expected.

It's like I am coming to realize all the sufferings I have been through. All the pain. And I feel like I have endured those to get to this day when all I can do was be thankful for everything. Life sure is strange. And though I wouldn't be going for the sake of "money" but rather a fulfillment of who I am and what I will become, it's just amazing.

As you know, I was never a money-driven person. I work because I love what I am working on and who I am working for. I work because there is a sense of fulfillment that I am changing someone's life. I work because I know that one day, the hardwork will pay off, in an immeasurable way.

I cannot find the words to say to express my happiness and gratitude for an answered prayer. I just feel so BLESSED.

Tuesday, April 9, 2013

Happiness :)

Aquarius men and Gemini women compatibility

The relationship between Gemini and Aquarius is harmonic and peaceful. Nobody can understand a Gemini woman better than an Aquarius man. He perfectly understands her needs, changes, activities, traveling. It´s because Aquarius wants to change everything and everybody around himself. Except himself. The Aquarius sign is a fix sign, it means that nobody and nothing can change him. But it doesn´t mean that his moods and acts are predictable. His moods are changing exactly the same way as moods of a woman born under the sign of Gemini. If a woman of this sign falls in love with a man of Aquarius sign, she will feel on her own skin, how is it like, when somebody is changing like the April weather. The partner match between Gemini and Aquarius is amazing. Aquarius likes to shock people with his ideas and behavior. Woman of Gemini sign often can fully understand his behavior. Exactly this is what makes him excited. He likes that he always must think of new foolishness. Compatibility of Gemini – Aquarius is fantastic. These two people are even same in unpunctuality, irresponsibility and independence. Together they could learn to be more responsible or on-timer. Their cohabitation will be full of fun. Even if the position of these signs in the zodiac is not ideal and harmonic, an Aquarius men and a Gemini woman have much in common. But the ability to apologize is the thing in which they diverse. She has no problem with it. It can be stated that she likes to say sorry. On the other side he hates apologizing and can´t stand the idea that he should apologize to somebody for something. Aquarius together with Scorpio, Leo and Taurus are those signs from which you will never hear any apologize. Gemini and Aquarius have always something to talk about and learn from each other. It is not the sex what keeps them together. It is not on the first place for any of these two signs. Of course, they enjoy it and are able to talk about it. But they don´t make a big deal from sex. Mental understanding is more important for them. Gemini women have a tendency to flirt in every situation. For an Aquarius, it´s not a big problem. He´s not jealous. And even, he´s able to understand it, because he himself often gets into such situations. In fact, Aquarius is not the most faithful type. The people of this sign lead the divorce rate. In this sphere she will also feel on her own skin how is it like when the other one turns after others. In generally we can say that the Gemini-Aquarius couple are connected with mutual vibration, peace towards life and the joy from small things.